Comments for Introvert Retreat

Comment on Are You Introverted, or are you shy? by Sam

Sam — Sun, 30 May 2010 14:35:00 +0000

Hi.i feel myself introverted,tensed and i just think everytime.i speak less,have fear in social occasion.help me..what shuld i do to come out frm this problems?

Comment on The Cost of Being an Introvert by Janet Barclay

Janet Barclay — Sun, 23 May 2010 01:30:23 +0000

Hu5, you don’t have to feel that way. You’ll find lots of helpful information on this site and in the books we recommend.

Comment on The Cost of Being an Introvert by Hu5

Hu5 — Mon, 10 May 2010 14:27:12 +0000

being an introvert is difficult

I feel doubt and no believe in self , also struggling with depression all my life

lack of friends

Comment on About Introversion by sue

sue — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 05:58:28 +0000

i’m not sure where i fit sometimes. i generally like to hang out with only one, maybe two others. i don’t love chatting on the phone. words sometimes slip through my grasp, despite having a very active and analytical mind. i don’t always feel listened to and it bothers me. i speak quietly too, which doesn’t help. i’ve found myself in a management role recently and feel confident in what i do but still, sometimes, when new “charmers” work their way up the ladder quickly it can bug me too. i feel like it’s contrived. i feel like there are ways i should work harder though, at making a stronger impression, at being louder and being “bubbly” even though i do usually flash a smile. i’m eager to find out more about this..and where i fit…maybe starting with the myers-briggs is the bast place? i noticed there’s a test for managers. (:

Comment on I am a Lava Lamp! by JoanaRo

JoanaRo — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 16:38:39 +0000

I play around with Blogthings a lot - it’s harmless fun! - and I was also a lava lamp. I’m an INFP, so I guess that’s no real surprise.

Comment on About Introversion by Liz

Liz — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 22:54:37 +0000

Message to Jacqui - you just saved my day! It’s my birthday today and I’ve been beating myself up all morning because every time the phone rings or someone texts or e-mails to wish me Happy Birthday I feel a mixture of panic, dread, irritation and most of all GUILT because I wish they would all just go away…… which makes me ungrateful and undeserving of the lovely friends and family I have I know.

I’ve known for a long time that I’m an introvert - quite an extreme one. But unfortunately over the years I think I’ve managed to develop some pretty good social skills, so a lot of friends and family probably don’t know it and think of me as quite sociable and (hate the word) ‘bubbly’. So now there’s a complete mis-match between my outer and inner personality. I’m not quite sure what to do about that. Any suggestions? Can you come ‘out’ as an introvert?

I have tried to accept my personality over the years, and not beat myself up too much about it. But I do worry a lot about offending people - by refusing invitations, or not always responding to phone calls etc. Is that an acceptable characteristic of introversion, or just bad manners?? I never mind if people don’t want to go out, forget/ignore my birthday/Christmas, don’t return calls or stay in touch - but I’m pretty sure that’s not the standard view of the world.

Comment on The Cost of Being an Introvert by sameen

sameen — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 10:48:23 +0000

i m also an introvert, i don’t feel any trouble talking to people but main thing is i drive energy from my inner-self and more satisfied spending time with myself.the fact is introverts are bit different from the general population.

Comment on Living Proof that Introverts Can Achieve Success by Janet Barclay

Janet Barclay — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 13:39:50 +0000

Pam, thanks for sharing your insight as both an introvert and a type professional.

Comment on Living Proof that Introverts Can Achieve Success by Pam Hollister

Pam Hollister — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:33:47 +0000

I appreciate your post. I teach personality type and one of the things I notice is that some people have a difficult time “choosing Introvert” in my trainings. Introvert has been given a “bad rap” and a lot of people feel there must be something the matter with you if you’re an Introvert.

I’m an Introvert and it hasn’t stopped me from being successful, conducting trainings, playing the piano to large audiences, and singing in front of large audiences.

Knowing and understanding that I focus my Energy as an Introvert has helped me immeasurably, however. I make sure that I take time out to “recharge” my batteries by spending time alone when I’ve done a log of “Extraverting.”

By knowing just this one thing about my type, I have eliminated the tension headaches I used to get that kept me in bed for several days at a time and no pain medication would deter. In fact, I haven’t been sick in years with a cold, etc.

Understanding what the Energy behavior dimension is all about and the E/I preferences is very valuable information.

Comment on Living Proof that Introverts Can Achieve Success by Janet Barclay

Janet Barclay — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 12:20:07 +0000

Niels, please don’t be offended, but you have an annoying habit of taking a single statement and twisting things around as though that statement represented my entire view of the world.

Of course, extraverts can also face career barriers! For example, as a former employment counsellor I had to advise certain clients to be careful to only answer what was asked in a job interview. However, this blog is called Introvert Retreat and is intended to look at various aspects of introversion.

Some of those aspects include certain problems with which some introverts may struggle. That is not to say that all introverts have those problems, that all introverts have problems, or that all problems are due to introversion.

You are most welcome to share your thoughts here, but it would be appreciated if you had more to say than to imply that what I’m saying isn’t complete.

It is not realistic to expect every blog post to include a comprehensive description of every advantage and every disadvantage faced by every introvert and every extravert. If that’s what you’re looking for, go buy a book.