There are a lot of introverts out there who do not reveal themselves to people often. This is perfectly normal. You are who are you, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand up for yourself. Being an introvert can sometimes make it hard to fight back if you are being taken advantage of, but the following tips may help give you some agency and the confidence to stand up for yourself.
One of the easiest things you can do is use what might be called a “digital wall”. The internet has given introverts the opportunity to speak about their issues with someone or a situation online without confronting someone face to face. You can send a mass email or an email directly to the person causing trauma to express how the issue is affecting you. Hopefully, your sincere words will make this person or group of people understand. Heading off a conflict directly is usually the best way to resolve it. Don’t be afraid to use a digital screen to approach problems face on.
Most people have someone they can turn to. This is a mediator of sorts, and you probably have someone like this that you can turn to. You want to talk to this person if you feel like you are being taken advantage of. This person should be able to bring up the issue on your behalf to see if the problem can be resolved with a simple conversation. Mediators are there to break the ice and make it easier for you to talk. If you can, use a good friend as a mediator if you don’t have anyone who can speak for you.
It is important to recognize when it is time to take serious steps against someone who might be abusing you. It might not be easy to confront this person, but you can simply talk to a professional. For example, you might approach your HR department first or talk to your boss before confronting an abuser. This person is going to be your shield and your voice, so you want to make sure it is someone you can trust and someone you can give evidence to.
Asserting yourself as introvert takes time because it can be hard to believe in yourself. One thing that an introvert can do to empower him or herself is to take self-empowering classes. For example, you can take kick-boxing classes or other self-defense classes. These types of lessons help an introvert find courage from within, which may help you stand up for yourself later on. This may take some time to develop, but it should be worth it.
Hopefully, these tips help guide you in the right direction. Granted, these are just some of the things you can do to stand up for yourself, but there are others. You can talk to life coaches or others with life experience to help unlock the hidden power within you.
Eileen O’Shanassy is a freelance writer and blogger based out of Flagstaff, AZ. She writes on a variety of topics and loves to research and write. She enjoys baking, biking, and kayaking. Check out her Twitter @eileenoshanassy.